Some skeletons are better left in the closet …
Recently, weaskedmarried people in theBuzzFeed Communityto share the secrets they are keeping from their spouse. Here’s what they had to say:
1.“I will never admit to my husband that I settled for him. We had been together for almost nine years before we got married, and to this day I depend on him for many aspects of my life. When he proposed, it was a panic feeling more than excitement honestly. He is an amazingly supportive partner who always puts my needs before his, but sexually it’s just boring. Vanilla, two-minute sex every time. I’m pregnant now, and he will be an amazing father, that I know within my heart. But I’ve settled for him, and I know this in my heart too.”
2.“We have three children. We were ‘team green’ (i.e. didn’t want to know the gender) for all three. Our first child was truly a surprise for both of us when she was born. I found out the gender of our second and third children and kept it a secret from him because the anticipation was too much for me.”
— Anonymous
3.“I went a little crazy while on vacation and racked up $20,000 on my credit card. I took out a loan to pay it off. I paid off the loan in five years, whereas I would probably still be paying on my credit card. My husband would flip out if he knew. He will never know because everything is paid off and there are no records of anything to be found.”
4.“My wife has no idea that before we met her best friend and I were friends with benefits. [We] won’t ever tell her because I know my wife would be insanely upset with her friend. My wife has always had a crush on me and she would hate that her friend went after me.”
5.“I am secretly in love with his good friend. I love my husband too, very much, and I firmly believe you can love more than one person at the same time. His friend is so gentle, sweet, and kind to me and buys me and my daughters thoughtful gifts for the holidays and when he visits other countries. I think he has feelings for me too but I would never act on them. I respect my husband too much to step outside our marriage, but still.”
6.“I had an abortion a year ago. We have one child already and we’re not in a place to have another child. I love my husband but I don’t want more kids and I know he wants at least one more.”
7.“I had an affair with a married man much older than me while I was a young adult. No regrets either.”
8.“We are third cousins. We had a small courthouse wedding only a year and a half after we met. The whole thing was rushed because I was given a last-minute work opportunity to go to South Africa and study the marine life there for a year. The university I was working with would pay 1/4 of the cost for spouses traveling with those on the research trip. Me and my husband had already planned on getting married eventually, and we didn’t want to pass on the opportunity, or be away from each other for long. We ended up married and in South Africa within the month.”
" It was n’t until yr later when I took a DNA test and found out . When I was fail through my papa ’s lineage , I found someone with his great nanna ’s name . My dad died when I was a shaver so I do n’t know anyone other than my aunt on his side of the family . I was surprised , but the more I investigated , the more I realise that we are related . Me and my husband have been marry almost 12 years and I ’m still too terrified to recite him . "
— sam29894
9.“I’ve never really forgiven her for her infidelity.”
10.“I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven years. Before him, I had gotten pregnant and suffered a miscarriage at 16 weeks. It was the most devastating thing I had gone through up to that point. When WE first started dating, we brought up the topic of kids and he clearly said he didn’t want any. I did, but he didn’t ask my opinion on the topic. Fast forward to the present time, I was diagnosed with endometriosis. The doctor told me at this point I CANNOT have kids. I’m sad that I feel this was ‘taken’ from me twice. I’ll grieve in silence forever.”
11.“I will never tell my spouse that I had sex with their two best friends (it was a threesome) the day before our wedding, after our rehearsal dinner. They are all still friends. Honestly, it was just something that happened and didn’t mean anything, so I would never tell my spouse because it’s none of their business what three consenting adults do. I love my spouse, but they just don’t need to know every single thing I have ever done.”
12.“I left all my life insurance to my only son, not my husband. My son knows and it’s a secret we keep between us.”
13.“I knew the day he was going to propose. He was so excited and thought I had no clue. I had to fake a reaction and I will take that to my grave.”
14.“I fell in love with a coworker a month before my wedding. The two of us had been placed on a project together, and had immediate fireworks. I never pursued it. We remained friends, though it was really hard to deny the feelings. He passed away a few years ago and I always wondered what might have been. I am very happy in my marriage but I will never tell my husband about it.”
15.“Our food bill is much higher than my wife thinks. I volunteer to do the shopping (alone) because I usually end up shoplifting a handful of the more expensive items. I would rather my family be fed well than have to go without.”
16.“My body count. If he knew I lost count and it’s between 30 and 35, he would dump me for sure. He’s never asked. I don’t think he can handle that conversation, and if he ever asks I’m going to say it’s 12 including him. I hope he never does ask because I don’t want to lie about it.”
17.“At our wedding reception, I had a panic attack because I knew we shouldn’t have gotten married.”
18.“I was in a relationship with my sugar daddy immediately before meeting my husband. I left my sugar daddy for him! I think my husband would be fine with it if he knew, but going to keep that one locked away for myself.”
19.“I am slightly allergic to her perfume. For context, my wife was extremely close to her grandmother and was really devastated when she passed away. But before that, they shared a love for perfumes and were especially fond of this specific one called Woody Rum. So when her grandmother passed away, [she] started wearing that one more often as a way to still feel close to her. The problem is an ingredient, or maybe the combination of ingredients, in the perfume is an allergen to me. I don’t know what it is, but every time she wears it I get goosebumps and a runny nose. The first time I tried it myself, my skin turned red and started to itch. Nothing too serious, but I don’t have it in me to stop her from wearing it so I just manage through it.”
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