" Yelling at brute is a dealbreaker . I ca n’t stand it when someone screams at an animal for thing they ca n’t control , like when a dog or a cat just wants your love and attention . We all get bilk with our animals , but shout out at them constantly will kill my interest in you ASAP . "
Recently useru/imthejavafoxasked the Reddit community: “What’s adealbreakerfor you in a relationship that might not be a big deal to others?”
Folks didn’t holdanythingback (and by anything, I mean anything!), and revealed some harsh dating red flags. After combing through them, I must admit I agree with them 150%.
So here are relationship dealbreakers that are simply nonnegotiable for some people:
1.“I found out recently that baby talk is a dealbreaker for me. Dude speaks three languages, and he said ‘peeez’ instead of ‘please’ two too many times. It just made him unattractive to me.”
— uranium / NuttyBoButty
2.“Conspiracy theories and pseudoscience. Someone who doesn’t believe we landed on the moon, someone who believes aliens built the pyramids, and vaccine bullshit. I’m not debating you, I’m not humoring you, and I’m not coming home to our bank accounts drained all because you lack critical thinking skills.”
— u / graccha
3.“Not washing their hands after eating with their hands — licking their fingers and wiping it off on their clothes thinking that’s ‘clean enough.’ Yeah, I really hate dirty hands.”
4.“Consistent lateness. Everybody is late once in a while because life, but when you have those people who are constantly late for everything and they leave you waiting for them over and over and over again? I just find it so incredibly disrespectful, and it’s a huge dealbreaker.”
— uracil / Joygernaut
5.“Yelling at animals is a dealbreaker. I can’t stand it when someone screams at an animal for things they can’t control, like when a dog or a cat just wants your love and attention. We all get frustrated with our animals, but yelling at them constantly will kill my interest in you ASAP.”
— u / Lostmixup
6.“I need to sleep in separate beds (or preferably bedrooms).”
7.“Bad emotional control. Like, if you had a bad day, I’m sorry —but that’s not my fault. You shouldn’t be taking it out on me by snapping at me or being rude. You’re allowed to vent, but you need to direct that somewhere else.”
— atomic number 92 / ThanosWifeAkima-4848
8.“Posting the relationship all over social media.”
— u / Sweaty - Cream-6403
9.“Also the opposite: Refusing to post a single picture of us together. It doesn’t have to be slathered all over socials, but that one really good picture of us on the mountaintop? Why not post that?”
10.“Being a picky eater. You wouldn’t think this would affect you personally, but cohabitation brings out those irritating little tidbits. You never get to try new restaurants, and being even a little adventurous with cooking results in it being uneaten (and thus wasted). It’s just too high-level of an accommodation that limits the richness of your life.”
— u / sushieta
11.“Bikers. My ex was so obsessed with his Harley that he neglected our family (even after he almost died while I was pregnant with the last one). He said he would have been okay with dying on his bike and our baby never meeting him. I will never date or marry a biker ever again.”
— u / goddess_of_fear
12.“Extroversion to the extreme — when they have absolutely no filter, and don’t care about the opinions of others. They overshare, and don’t understand boundaries.”
13.“Cancellations. I understand that stuff happens, but if we’re just getting to know each other and you cancel more than twice in a row, I gotta move on.”
— u / Ineffable_Dingus
14.“My ex used to go up to strangers in the grocery store and ask their opinions on random items, so that.”
— u / Mirrorflute88
" I also date someone [ who used to go up to alien ] . They ’d share way too much with randos ( and I mean , like , really personal hooey , too ) . "
— u / Drone314
15.“I like to feel wanted. So, if I’m planning all the dates, initiating all the texts and calls, and initiating sex every time, then it won’t work out. I’m gonna feel like you’re not into me, and I’d rather not waste my time or yours.”
16.“Embarrassing me in public by trying to argue in an obnoxious way.”
— u / warmspaff
" I converge an aged married couple like this today . At first , I guess she was the toxic one and he was the pushover , but nope . They were BOTH toxic !
They clear hated each other with commitment and passion . I just take a step back , put my game face on , and countenance these two out-and-out shooter go at each others throats in world . "
— atomic number 92 / KapteynCol
17.“Intellectual curiosity — I can’t handle intellectually ‘lazy’ people. If I see a new and novel experience to try and they’re like ‘eeeeeehhhhhhhhhhhhh,’ then it’s not going to work. I need someone who, if I point out something novel, they’re like: ‘Yeah, alright, let’s go.'”
— u / GeebusNZ
18.“Bad driving. If you’re texting, driving like a maniac, or having a road rage hissy-fit while I’m in the car, count me OUT, son.”
19.“Poking fun at my taste in music or my interests, even if it’s in ‘a joking way.’ I’ve never done that to any one of my partners, but every abusive partner I have had engaged in that behavior before things got bad. Never again.”
— uracil / Comfortable - Mix1870
20.“Incompatible hobbies (we don’t need to have the same hobbies). But, for example, if they’re the type of active people who act as if they may die if they breathe indoor air, then we are not compatible.”
— atomic number 92 / sachiko468
21.“Being friends with an ex.”
22.“Not having a drivers license. I’ve driven four hours each way on vacation while my ex slept in the passenger seat — we did that a few times. The ‘lazy’ jerk never wanted to get it in the first place. Yes, I am somewhat to blame for putting up with it for so long, but I’ll never do that again.”
— u / BUFUByUsFuckYou
23.And: “This is probably petty, but not putting the [toilet] seat down. Leaving the lid up is just gross in general, but something just disgusts me about leaving the whole thing up. It makes me view the guy as very inconsiderate to women on a subconscious level.”
In conclusion:
observe : Some entry have been edited for length and/or pellucidity .
