" My brother had a family relationship and a child with our first cousin-german ( our dads are brothers ) . They keep it a secret ( like , no one knew the child even existed ) for almost eight age before my dad and uncle see out . … I have known about the site since they were pregnant . "
Recently, wewroteabout secrets people have kept from their families — and now we’re back with more from theBuzzFeed Community.* Here are 25 secrets people refuse to tell their families.
- There are also some from theoriginal Reddit train of thought .
remark : There are mentions of sexual assault and miscarriage .
1.“I’ve been living with my mom and my younger sister without my dad since childhood because my dad has abandoned us for a younger woman. When I was in high school/university, … my mom told me that when I was much younger, my dad had visited a shaman who was (in)famous for giving wealth to people who asked and paid. Other than money, the payment usually included the life of one direct family member of the requestor. That chosen family member usually would die or go insane. After visiting the shaman, my dad gave two items to my mom: a short dagger to be kept somewhere in the house and a meal to be given to me.”
" My mum keep the dagger in their bedroom , but threw the meal away . age subsequently after becoming a born - again Christian , my mom cave in the dagger by and assure me the story . I always know my pappa would choose my beautiful piffling babe than me , but I did n’t look he would be so unbiased to be uncoerced to sacrifice me for wealth . "
— buzzfeedcommenter
2.“I’m having an affair with a married man. We have a 15-year-old daughter. His only daughter whom he was never really there for from day one and can’t be there for now. About three years ago though, he finally had a child with his wife who he’s been with since my daughter was three (another girl) and now recently had a baby boy. It’s a weird relationship that we have maintained but when we are together (unbeknownst to our families and our daughter) we get along and are really happy together.”
" I palpate bad because my daughter is growing up in a undivided - family home with no father while her sibling are getting a two - parent home and have a really good life while I am financially skin . I never shared my battle with her father but he has to experience kid are expensive either way and now I ’m thinking of finally ending it because I finger like my daughter is being cold-shoulder . This is unjust to her . He never wanted to be a sire so I get into this is why he never was a father but is now currently present for his two kid . He is 40 years old . I assumed he would never have other nipper but now he ’s a founder of three . "
— Anonymous
3.“I killed my great-grandmother. I was 10 years old and she was watching me while my parents were at work and one of my favorite things to do at the time was hide and jump out and scare people. … I hid in her closet and waited for her to come look for me, and when she opened the door, I just went ‘RAWR!!!!’ and before I knew it, she had fainted and bumped her head. The one detail I’ll never get out of my head was the sound she made when she hit her bedpost. After it happened, I was taken aback, and she wasn’t responding to my voice nor me nudging her. I didn’t know what to do at the time, so I went next door and told the lady that my Granny collapsed and she wasn’t waking up. She called 911, 911 got a hold of my parents, and the rest is history. To this day, I’ve never told them it was me, and I still think about it sometimes.”
— u / cojiro_blue
4.“When I was 10, my dad died in a workplace accident. There was a lawsuit for wrongful death, and my mom settled out of court for a decent amount of money. She then invested the money in a structured settlement for my brother and I. Basically I would get lump sum payments every five years after I turned 25, then would get them every two years once I turned 55. The fully vested amount of the structured settlement was well over a million dollars. I sold the payments to JG Wentworth at a SUBSTANTIAL loss, then took the money and blew it on cocaine and gambling. I was broke within three months. Never told my mom.”
— u / bstyledevi
5.“I’m in my 30s and I’m a sugar baby to a man 30 years older than me. Not my preferred occupation, but he pays more than I make at the 9–5 that I love. It helps with the extra, like unexpected bills.”
— u / cloudypdx503
6.“My brother had a relationship and a child with our first cousin (our dads are brothers). They kept it a secret (like, no one knew the child even existed) for almost eight years before my dad and uncle found out due to my brother texting our dad one night when he was drunk…This is my dad’s first and only grandchild. I have known about the situation since they were pregnant. My dad and I are close, so keeping a secret like that from my father would make me physically ill at times.”
— u / ThrowPillowAddict
7.“I started modeling when I was 14 years old. My first modeling contract landed me in NYC at 15 years old and then when I was 17 I went to Milan, Italy. By myself. I was thrust into a lot of things I had never experienced before. … My new roommate … invited me to go to the famous Club Hollywood in Milan. Promoters would get paid to take us out. … She calls this guy who was a model with our agency but also lived in Milan full time. He was dealing drugs on the side for money. He agrees to sell us some weed and is adamant we are going to love this weed, it’s the best weed ever…Okay. The night comes.”
" Me and new roomie go out of doors to smoke this joint . … We start walk back into the lodge which is down a crowd of stairs and I see the women ’s bathroom to my left and tell her I ’m just going to use it real fast and I ’ll come up her . … I ’m standing , waiting for stall to open up andall of a sudden I feel like I ’m being sucked into the floor . I feel like I ’m look up at people , like I ’ve shrunk down and everyone is as magniloquent as a building . I trip out of the john and I taste to orient myself but it ’s unsufferable . … I find a bench against a bulwark and I slouch down … and then I projectile vomited into the dance story of the club . … Next thing I know some guy is asking me if I want to go home ? nursing home ? Yes , YES PLEASE ! I ’ve fall back my purse . I ’ve lost my coating . The only thing I have is my new address memorized and my flat key in my back pouch . …
This guy rope drags me out of the society and shoves me in the front seat of a beat - up red car and two other hombre get in the back arse . I ’m still mostly paralyse . I see them in a fog doing C off a CD suit . I ’ve never seen coke in my life … I keep repeating my destination as if it ’s some kind of mantra now . He just keeps tell ' okay . ' He drops his ally off . Andall of a sudden I realize I ’m no longer in the city of Milan . I ’m in the country somewhere .
He rend up to an apartment complex and he ’s … hear to press me to get out of the car . Something finally sink in in my brain . …. I originate hollo at him … He ’s trying to get me to go for a coffee . I suppose , ' NO COFFEE ! HOME ! ' He grab my arm and says , very menacingly , ' no home base . ' This is when I in good order turn a loss my poop . I start banging everything in the railway car and demanding he take me home or back to the club . … He finally gets scared and drops me back to the club .
I become back inside still barely able to walk … I tell the promoter that things have live on wrong and I needed to recover my roommate and go home . … Next day roomie … calls guy we baffle [ the weed ] from . … He tells us he laced it with PCP . WTF ? ! ? ! ! All of my faith in people fly that night . I have never been able to state my family what happened because my mum was already so trusting of me and think I was there being responsible and puzzle out . It still haunts me to this day that I was in such a vulnerable position and that if that guy wire wanted to , he could have kill me and there would have been nothing I could do . "
— u / ironburton
8.“My uncle gave me $30K in cash. Less than a year later he died. He told me that this was between him and I and to not tell anyone. After his death, my mom was the executor of his estate because she is the only one left in her family. He had some money in a bank account and no kids. My mom gave my brothers, sister, and my cousins a thousand dollars each but I refused the money because I had already gotten enough from my uncle. After about a year my mom sat me down and insisted I take the money and explain why I had refused it so many times. I finally had to tell her but I told her to not tell anyone else. I have a feeling my siblings and dad will be very upset to find out he gave me that money and I didn’t give any to them.”
— uranium / HeyZuesHChrist
9.“My family, to this day, doesn’t know that my first wife had to have a C-section not because of a medical issue with my son but because we found out that she was HIV positive. Her T-cells were so low that they told us that she was on the verge of having full-blown AIDS. She had no idea. My son, in a weird way, saved her life. She got on medication immediately during the pregnancy. My son never contracted it, and neither did I. She’d had it for years before we even met.”
— uracil / CascadeJ1980
10.“My cousin got pregnant at 19, sometime after high school graduation, by a guy she knew who was in a band. She stayed with a friend while pregnant (a girl no one in our extended fam knew well, but right here in town) and gave the baby up for adoption. She told absolutely no one and because she was always kind of circumspect and eccentric, no one questioned her standoffishness that whole year. But 33 years later, he tracked our family down through DNA and ancestry.com — with a little help from the Facebook. She is PISSED.”
" Wo n’t recognise him or speak to him , and the rest of the menage who ’s embrace him are label ' traitors ' who betrayed her . Dude , we were mega shocked , but happily so ! No shame or shade from anyone of any generation . He ’s heartbroken she wo n’t transmit at all and their part of the family is in a polite war over it . It ’s terribly sad to witness and feels like an ego matter on her side . But we ca n’t support her or understand her opinion because she ’s declared us dead to her . I think :
1 . Life is far too short to torture people who have sex you . At least explicate before writing them ( us ) off .
2 . It ’s 2023 , kids , DNA and the interwebs is gon na find us all . "
— hollym21
11.“My parents were married in 1981. … I was born 1984. In the mid-’90s, my dad’s dad (my grandpa) passed away. We went down south to his place for his funeral. I rummaged around downstairs through boxes of old things and found a newspaper wedding announcements from the ’70s…of my dad with another woman. I showed this to my mom and asked about it (I was like fifth grade) and she said, ‘oh your father was young and stupid.’ I never said anything again. Then, 2004. My dad dies suddenly from a heart attack. It was a shock. Fit, overall great health…just unfortunate genetics. … Anyway, we are preparing for the funeral. My aunt comes to me ‘you know how your dad was married before?’ I’m now 19 and finally can agree to this because I haven’t said a word for yearsss. ‘Well. He left her because he walked in on her with another woman.'”
" I … did an ancestry.com rank for awhile and while I was researching hopefully my dad ’s birth family I finally found record of this Jane Doe he was married to . …. I called her . She answer . We talked for an hour . We have also kept in ghost lots . Her and my dad were high school sweetheart . He adopt great concern of her and have sex her . But she admitted she really knew late down she wanted to be with women . They get their marriage annulled because they were good Catholic family line who should n’t get divorced . And my dad move on and met my mom . Also found out from her that after their detachment somehow she had some of his belongings and want to get them back to him so she phone his workplace . rick out it was the twenty-four hours I was being support because they told her he was at the hospital for the birth of his Kyd . He ended up call in her back and say her about me . So she know I be this whole prison term . And then she secernate me my pappa ship a Christmas card every yr to her parent . And in 2004 they did n’t get one . And then that ’s how she line up out from obituary searching he perish away . And now it ’s 2023 and my mom has no idea I have ever talked to his first married woman and have somewhat built a friendly relationship , nor does she fuck he sent these Xmas cards or talk to her the daylight I was carry .
12.“About 15 years ago, I was traveling and randomly picked up a lottery ticket and won $250,000. The state was one that doesn’t make the names of lottery winners public — so no one ever knew. I was making decent money at the time and only used about $60,000 (banked the rest).”
— u / Zealousideal_Ad_8736
13.“Me being bisexual and being in a long-distance relationship with a girl, which is no longer long-distance now. I’ve lived out of my family home for the most part of my life [even] after I turned 18 because of my higher education or designated workplace being very far from home. I am still very close to my family but I’ve sort of developed a second life outside of my family — a life I know that a traditional Asian family will find very difficult to accept.”
" Sometimes on sure weekend / holidays , I ’ll enjoin my syndicate that I am not gratis but really I am hang out with my partner . My family thinks she is my ' very tight friend . ' The trouble now is that I am having major result with my partner , which I sense is heading towards a breakup and sadly the only people I can share my sadness with are a few of my selected shut friends . I am not ready to do out to my family . "
— u / elxhl8
14.“That I’d walk around with a 50ml bottle of someone else’s piss down my pants, just to pass the drug tests they’d make me do.”
— u / spikeiscool
15.“I had a miscarriage on my 17th birthday. I had found out I was pregnant three days after my HS boyfriend and I had broken up when my sister caught him fucking my best friend. I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant, except him. I hadn’t figured out what I was going to do yet, or how to tell them. Turned out to not matter, because two weeks later, again, on my birthday, I woke up in incredible pain and my bed was just covered in blood. I was home alone, so I just called my ex to take me to the hospital and never said a word to anyone in my family. He and the girl he cheated on me with showed up, and she cleaned up the bed while he drove me to the hospital.”
" This was nearly 15 geezerhood ago now , and I ’d say I’be healed now . I still think about it from time to time , think about how I ’d have a teen by now , and how dissimilar my life would be ( I came out as festive about 5 year afterwards , started date a charwoman and moved across the country with her , later marry her . We have no youngster ) . I ’m grateful that I could heal and see a better life for myself after that . "
— uranium / BurrSugar
16.“In college, I medically donated eggs to help pay off credit card and college debt. My family is very religious and 1) thinks it would be like killing babies and 2) would think they are grandparents. I am open about a lot in my life but I will never tell them. They would try to find the couple and contact the child and try to be a ‘grandparent’ and it’s none of their goddamn business.”
— u / itsbecccaa
17.“My drug addiction to opioids between my 15 and 18. I went to the hospital for a chronic disease and they gave me [opioids]. I fell into [addiction] and could ask for medical prescription anytime so I took these for three years and stopped with a big craving effect for weeks.”
— atomic number 92 / OURE14
18.“I went to therapy, got a CPTSD diagnosis (directly due to the way I was raised), and, due to that, easily qualified for a medical Marijuana card. Oh, and an anxiety diagnosis. They have no idea. I’ve tried talking to my parents about my childhood, but they always play victim/martyr. So I’ve just stopped.”
" It ’s kind of suspect that I ’ve had these vast life history changes and my parents are forgetful . I ’m virtually no contact with my narcissistic Father-God and hard reduced contact with my mum . They ’re oblivious . "
— uranium / cheesemongrel938491
19.“I lied to my family about going to college and graduating. I was never good at school but it was expected so I pretended to go and even pretended to graduate. My parents gave me money for school and I used it to pay for rent and travel around the world for a few years. I still haven’t told them.”
20.“That I had a horrendous gambling addiction. I was over $35K in debt. Had a massive win. Paid it all off and have never placed a bet again.”
— atomic number 92 / rimarshall99
21.“That my ‘mate’ I took to the ER with a fractured eye socket, broken jaw, shattered wrist, snapped collar bones collar bones and a dislocated shoulder didn’t drunkenly fall down three flights of stairs at his party. Was really a reaction to seeing him attempting to sexually assault a chick I was close to (little sister close).”
— uranium / OddBore75
22."[My] mom said she’d disown me if I got vaccinated. I did it in secret like two years ago anyway. She tells me practically every day how glad she is I didn’t get it."
— uracil / Hollowgradient
23.“I once had a sex ed lesson that flipped my whole world upside down. It was a boys-only class and the male teacher was talking to us about sexual health. He explained the importance of checking for lumps as this can be a sign of cancer. I can’t recall exactly what the teacher said but I basically left that class with the view of, if you have a lump then you have cancer. You can probably guess where this is going by now. I got home and proceeded to check my balls for lumps, and sure enough, I felt a hard tender mass on my left testicle. I must’ve been about 13 at the time and didn’t know what to do. Of course, the teacher explained during the lesson that you should tell a parent or doctor if you do find anything of concern but I felt far too embarrassed to tell anyone. I didn’t feel comfortable enough to tell my Mum and my Dad wasn’t in the picture.”
" So from 13 , I was convinced that I only had so many years to live . I think I state myself that I would be lucky to make it to 20 , not that I was equipped with any kind of knowledge about cancer at the time , other than masses on a regular basis croak because of it . This belief congeal me on a itinerary of self - destruction through my teenage years which led to me burst up with my puerility lulu , lose many Friend , and proceed out of my house home at 14 . tight forth to 17 age old when I eventually remove the courage to severalize a physician and have them check . turn out the lummox is just a benign cyst and will have close to zero impact on my physical health . I bid I felt like I could have been open with my Mum to tell her at the clip . My former life would have turned out very unlike if I had . "
— u / T4wnie
24.“I was in a long distance relationship with someone from another country for two years. I would travel nearly every month to visit them or they would come to me. They had no idea when they messaged me, I was sometimes out of the country, either in their country or on a trip somewhere else. I was living a completely different life that barely anyone knew about.”
" I had add up out of a relationship with a very scurrilous and dangerous mortal . He had totally embedded themselves in my household ’s life and when I finally left them , I lost my family with it . I moved to the next Ithiel Town over and sustain contact with my parents but all information about day-to-day life was hidden . I build a life slow , and part of that was a solo trip afield , where I met someone .
I was far too panic-struck to tell them the Sojourner Truth about what had happened with my ex . I did n’t think they ’d believe me and I did n’t want them to make love . My parents eventually skip tie-up with him but my brother stay friend with him after . I went to NC with my brother for four years in total .
I was so scared my ex would retrieve out and come take care for me due to jealousy that the relationship was kept a arcanum from most masses I knew , include my parents in case they let something slip to my chum .
I have leave the area now for good , and I ’m certain there ’s people who I have some academic degree of link to , that have no estimate I ever will . I ’ve always been someone that has keep their cards closemouthed to their chest , and sprightliness destiny have contributed to that greatly . "
— u / Keepdreamingkiddo
25.And finally, this one’s just surprisingly wholesome: “Honestly, just how much my cousin has improved my life. My parents were total shitbags. Both dead now, my aunt and uncle raised me. They were amazing people, sadly both of them died in a car accident a few years ago and left behind my cousin. It was a hell of a battle gaining guardianship over her, even though she wanted that as well (I’m male, and was single at the time), so that was a pain to deal with. But yeah, she’s really just put a sparkle in my life that was never there before. I had a really shitty childhood, and my teenage years were rough until I moved in with my aunt and uncle. Being responsible for her really pushed me to succeed, and now I’m living very comfortably, and semi-retired. And I attribute that drive to better myself to her. Because after losing her parents, I never want her to have a bad day again.”
— u / Unyielding_Cactus
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