" Sometimes , family is just a bunch of defective people who are biologically related to you . "

Let’s be honest: Life is tough, and sometimes we have to learn lessons the hard way, even when others advise us to do something differently.

So when I saw Reddit useru/IndianaC0NESask: “What’s an important lesson you learned the hard way?” I thought it would be helpful to share their advice, so, you know, we try to avoid doing these things in the future. Here’s what they had to say:

1.“Do not spend like there’s no tomorrow. Tomorrow will come and it won’t be pretty.”

2.“Never have kids with someone you don’t want in your life forever.”

— uracil / pntszrn74

" Also , assure that they also need you in their life forever . "

— u / Otherwise_Window

Danny Mcbride saying "lessons have been learned"

3.“Dental care is expensive!! Never be lazy with oral hygiene.”

4.“If something feels wrong, it likely is.”

— u / drzed47

5.“Don’t let love blind your eyes, red flags are real.”

6.“Not everyone has the same heart as you do.”

— atomic number 92 / Accomplished_Hat2770

7.“A falling knife has no handle.”

8.“Just because a person with authority tells you to do something doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do.”

— u / queloqueamigo

9.“Your family doesn’t always have your best interest at heart.”

— uracil / FriscoFrank98

" I ’d like to lend that the military posture of a sound document is dictated by one ’s willingness to action . "

— u / Aken42

someone holding 100 dollar bills

11.“Always take a chance to tell someone you love them. To give them a hug. Never end a conversation with a harsh word. Both for the same reason. You never know if you will get to see that person alive again. I learned both those lessons from each of my parents.”

12."$1,000 is not a lot of money to have but is a lot of money to owe."

— u / Daleee

" A hundred dollar is simultaneously a lot more than I thought it was as a kid , while also being a lot less than I cogitate it was as a nestling .

( The quote is a commonplace for a reason : it ’s straight . ) "

someone getting dental work

— u / PM_NUDES_4_DEGRADING

13.“WEAR A HELMET. It’s an easy safety precaution you can take when rollerblading, biking, skateboarding, scootering, etc. And it can literally save your life. I went all through the ’90s thinking helmets were lame, and I fell while rollerblading in my 30s and got asubdural hematoma. I wasn’t going fast but the momentum from how I fell just slammed my head into concrete.”

14.“It’s possible to make no wrong moves and still lose.”

— u / Tropicsenshi

" That is not a weakness . That is life "

— u / ButItDoesGetEasier

a couple folding their arms on the couch next to each other

15.“Stand up for yourself. If you get in the habit of letting people walk all over you, it’ll be extremely difficult to reverse. Even if you’re not confident, just fake it till you make it!”

16.“Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Shit happens and it doesn’t really need to have a reason. Sometimes you will be the bad guy, and sometimes, you will be the good guy. It happens.”

— u / KaiJonez

17.“You are not youremotions. You are an awareness who observes them.”

18.“Being the smartest person in the room isn’t always a good thing.”

— u / Dizzy - Particular-258

" If you ’re the smartest person in the room , you ’re in the wrong room . "

— u / klmjss2019

a knife on the edge of a counter

19.“There are always other jobs out there. Don’t stay in a shitty one just because you think no one else would hire you.”

family member fighting and sitting next to each other

two people hugging each other outside

two people wearing a bike helment while riding bikes

a woman talking to someone else

a person sitting on the floor by a window

a person shaking another persons hand