" She had always been insanely corneous before , but it was like a switch materialise . She wanted someone else . "
I recently came across a Reddit threadaskingguys about the time they realized that a woman was just not into them. Of course, I immediately thought of the movieHe’s Just Not That Into Youbecause it discusses the same topic — when to know that it’s just not working out with someone and it’s time to move on. Here are some things I learned from a guy’s perspective.
1.“Usually, either I am putting all the work into making conversation OR I’ve tried to arrange something concrete in terms of going on a date and I’ve been dodged. Either is a good indication that things are going nowhere and it’s time to move on.”
— u / ThatsASaabStory
2.“Getting one-word responses back to everything and always being the one to initiate a conversation. This is just true of friendships in general. It sucks to feel like the only person giving a shit.”
— uranium / nameless88
3.“When she said that she’s not ready for a relationship and then got into a relationship two weeks later.”
— uranium / Gooberflagm2
4.“When she takes days to reply, finally does, and then she makes excuses that she was busy.”
5.“She always had a ‘girl’s night’ or some excuse to never show up, yet expected me to drop everything and be with her when she wanted.”
— u / SecretPersonality178
6.“When, after three years together, I stumbled across some explicit texts between her and her ex. It hammered home that my view of the relationship was a lot different than hers. That was seven years ago. It left me heartbroken. I’ve thought about her every day since. As soon as the name-calling starts, you know the other person has no respect for you and it’s over with. That is the sign that you need to part ways.”
— uranium / FreddieKush420
7.“When I asked her out and she said, ‘No, I think of you like a brother.’ No hard feelings or drama. I wasn’t mad. I was kinda touched that she thought of me that way. We are not as close these days because life sent us in different directions.”
8.“She acted like I was bothering her when I went to talk to her.”
— u / JohnnyBravo_000007
9.“I noticed when the effort wasn’t reciprocated. The flirting and/or conversation is one-sided. She’ll say things like, ‘You deserve better.’ ‘I’m not ready for a relationship.’ ‘I don’t want to lose you as a friend.’ ‘The good-old hot and cold routine.’ ‘I’m always so busy.’ ‘I need someone that’s going to fight for me.'”
— u / Pashomi
10.“We were making love. I looked at her, and she looked so bored. She had always been insanely horny before, but it was like a switch happened. She wanted someone else.”
11.“The moment she starts referring to you as ‘bro,’ you know it’s over.”
— u / Xiphactinus27
12.“She spontaneously made out with this other dude and asked me for advice. I knew then I was never leaving the friend zone. I moved on instantly.”
— u / CharmingDagger
13.“If she says she would love to hang out but isn’t making concrete plans — she doesn’t want to hang out.”
— u / Wallstreetfoodmarket
14.“In online dating, when the girls give me very short responses to what should be open-ended questions. Either she’s not interested in me, or she’s not interesting enough for me to keep trying. Regardless, I’m not going to waste my time or hers.”
