" I ’d say being pitiless or meager with the waitstaff . That ’s a ready and easy pass for me . "
Recently, Reddit useru/WoodenInevitable1574asked, “What is one red flag in a partner that negates all green flags for you?”
Here’s what people said:
1. “Cruelty. People can hide it pretty well sometimes, but when you see it, it’s best to dip.”
— u/[deleted ]
2. “Dishonesty.”
— atomic number 92 / pretty_monotonous
3. “Having a victim complex and being rude to people.”
— u / WouldUKindlyDMBoobs
4. “Malicious manipulation of any form.”
— u / PsychologicalRing959
5. “Extreme outbursts of anger.”
— u / itzrx
6. “Littering. Like, blatantly. Throwing trash out of a car window for example. It’s my pet peeve. Of course, I’d point it out to them first and see if they stopped doing it, but it would still be a huge red flag to me.”
— u / Hippycowgirl411
7. “Being two-faced.”
— u / Street_Piece8194
8. “Cheating. Disrespect toward me. Disrespect toward others. Disloyalty.”
— u / AffectionateAd2942
9. “Overbearing jealousy.”
— u / Ok_Advance6558
10. “Absurd possessiveness, as in, ‘You can’t wear that.’ ‘You can’t go there.’ ‘You can’t talk to that guy.'”
— u / stan - twice
11. “ABUSE.”
— u / obrienmk
12. “If they ever start bragging on how ‘fortunate’ you are to be with them and how they have a roster of people they can be with at any moment.”
— u / TheJeey
13. “Racism/hate.”
— atomic number 92 / ihithardest
14. “If they have lots of exes, and all of them are irredeemable people. They never any mutual breakups, or they say, ‘I just didn’t really feel compatible with them.'”
— u / Anti - TankRanga
15. “Over-the-top solipsism. That ‘I don’t perceive it that way, so it cannot be true’ mentality.”
— u / UnoriginalUse
16. “The older I get, the more there are. I’m not dealing with possessiveness, unkindness toward people or animals, gaslighting or other manipulative dishonesty, rage problems, irresponsible financial habits, excessive bathroom humor… I’m sure there’s more. And I’m not in the business of changing people. If we are talking early/first date stuff, though, I’d say being unkind or stingy with the waitstaff. That’s a quick and easy pass for me.”
— u / BoraBoringgg
17. “It’s a red flag if he doesn’t see his kid.”
— u / Away_Proposal2615
18. “Also, how they treat boundaries. If you set one, someone is either going to test it, or they’ll actively try to help you maintain it. And if they’re the former, things will only get worse from there in how they treat you.”
— u / fieldtripday
19. “Smoking.”
— u / Early_Scratch_9611
submission have been edited for length and/or clarity .
