" I met my married man in a line school class . I ’m 24 , and he ’s about 22 year older than I am . He ’s the heir to one of the biggest family fortunes in the state . Everything was perfect in the beginning , and I have no declination . But I ’m pretty lone most days . It ’s just me , the dog , and my year - old girl . He works all the time and go a portion , so most of the time , it ’s just me in this vainglorious house . I just need to travel and do the things women my age do . All the money in the world is n’t deserving it if you ’re fundamentally confined to your house for day or even week at a metre . "
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1.“My parents married each other for money and were pretty manipulative to get their earnings. However, when the truth was revealed years later, they realized that they both needed to change their ways. With a lot of couples therapy and time management for each other, my parents came to actually love each other.”
" The existent test was when both cant account were frozen and I was about 3 years old . luckily , they stick with it and stay together . As of today , they are happily married and are raising one more minor before she leaves the nest . "
— 22 , New York
2.“I was engaged to my soulmate when he blindsided me and broke up with me. I was in the depths of depression for nearly a year when I met my current husband. He’s nice and we get on well, but I knew I’d never be in love. He was financially stable and responsible and could offer me good support for my education, amazing travels, a beautiful home, and two wonderful children. Life is very good, but we’ll never be in love. I crave that some days so much.”
" We ’re not affectionate , and I question what effect that ’ll have on our children . I often call back that we ’ll separate later in life-time , and I ’ll ascertain someone who piss me feel that way again . I did the hardheaded affair ; I ca n’t kick , but sometimes I ’m pitiful . "
— 46 , Canada
3.“I married for love; she married me for money. I told her I was a hardworking man, not a rich man. It was great in the beginning — we were happy and traveled. I would bring home treats and special gifts like jewelry from my work travels. Then it became expected and demanded, like an entitlement. Then my father helped buy me a condo for my daughter. It was pretty much all his money and my inheritance from my mom that bought the place. So when it came to the deed, I put his name and my name on the title. My wife blew a gasket when she found out; she expected to be an equal name on the title.”
" thing spiraled downward from there , and she plotted the divorcement for two and a one-half age , wedge and hiding every penny she could steal from our joint account . In the end , she pretty much ended up with nothing , and my daughter will end up with everything . "
— 65 , Hawaii
4.“My mom did this. She had me at 19 and didn’t know English. An American man asked her to marry him, so she did — he HAD money. He’s 16 years older than she is, he’s now broke, a terrible person overall, and she’s miserable. He also cheated on her two years ago.”
— Anonymous
5.“I met him in a business school class. He’s about 22 years older than I am. He’s the heir to one of the biggest family fortunes in the state. He gave his lecture about entrepreneurship, and then there was a reception for honors students after. We started talking, and I could tell he was interested. I gave him my number. Fast-forward, we dated a bit, got married two years ago when I got pregnant, and now I’m expecting our second child. Everything was perfect in the beginning, and I have no regrets. However, being married to a man who has an ex-wife and already has kids has been tough. I’ve been able to live out my dream as a stay-at-home mom. I’m in all the right social clubs, and there are plenty of other wives and moms to hang out with and make playdates. But his ex-wife is really involved in his business, and she resents me. My stepchildren are distant and think I’m just a gold digger.”
" Their daughter is roughly my age , and I ’ve never been able to stick with her despite many attempts . What it has lead to is that I ’m pretty solitary most days . Just me , the dog , and my twelvemonth - erstwhile girl . He work all the metre and travels a spate , so most of the time , it ’s just me in this prominent house . I guess my ' friends ' are superficial and fake , not existent friends . I never require for anything materially ( I have a pretty sizable household and personal valuation account ) , but I just want to journey and do the thing women my age do . All the money in the existence is n’t deserving it if you ’re essentially confined to your star sign for days or even weeks at a time . "
— 24 , Alabama
6.“I tried. I swear I tried. The guy talked nonstop and knew everything there was to know. I loved hanging out on the boat and going to the cottage, but he would never shut up. Although he was very generous, I couldn’t handle it. Never again.”
— luckyangel30
7.“I experienced a bit of both: marrying for love and money. It was love at first sight, but he was raised in a well-to-do family. He had his own company, and I was a dirt-poor farm girl working in a hospital kitchen. Well, it worked out, sort of — we’ve been married 24 years now, only now he’s 80 and we live on hisSSI. His company went bankrupt 10 years ago, and he’s trying to do a start-up, but no one takes him seriously at his age. We live check to check, and we’re onSNAP/EBT.”
" I ’m used to being miserable , but it ’s tough move for my good - deaf sweetheart . He keep going on about the aspiration sign of the zodiac we ’ll have someday , and I know damn well that ’s hopeless . I just have to hope he lives long enough until I can accumulate Social Security . "
— 60 , Washington
8.“My mom married for money and status…a classic narcissistic trait. She’s delighted with her choices, but neither of her children is because the kind of person who marries for money is usually a HORRIBLE person.”
— miznortonbuswell
9.“First, I had a college romance and married for love. We were married for eight years, and he never had one single job (he also had a kid from a previous relationship), so yay! I got to take care of a whole family at 19. He cheated the whole time. Lied. Left me with his kid for long periods of time while he was doing goodness knows what. I was in the military (to pay for said family), so I couldn’t just come and go as he did. My second marriage was when I was close to my 30s, and I was financially stable and doing well. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I made sure the person I married was at least financially on my level. His family is loaded. We had a prenup so that I’d be protected in case of divorce. Turns out, he’s HORRIBLE with money.”
" He is an alcoholic and has a gambling addiction . He makes a lot , but he spends it as tight as it comes in . He kept all of that a secret until he hit rock bottom . I had no estimation what sort of debt we were in ; I sign my own death warrant , though . Before I love what was happen , we had youngster . I wanted to stay on home and arouse them . On report , it would shape easily . We had three babies at nursing home when I found out what was befall . Now my kids are teens , and I ca n’t get a job that would fully support me and my kids because I do n’t have a car or wearing apparel , have health problems , and have a 16 - year job gap . So I ’m bewilder . You’d say , ' Leave him ! Take half of everything ! ' Two thing : There is n’t anything to halve , and we have a prenup saying I ca n’t touch his money and he ca n’t contact mine . Right this very minute , he ’s memory loss drunk in our backyard — like he is every single Nox . "
— 46 , Missouri
10.“My dad’s third wife and (kinda) my mom, his second wife, married him for the money. It was all about money. Everything was about money and looks. That’s all anyone talked about. Now my dad’s 20-years-younger ex–third wife lives with her vapid, emotionally messed-up daughter who supports her, despite having gotten everything when my dad died. She went deeply into debt expecting more. What a waste of a family. She started dating my dad like 10 years before he left my mom. She blames my dad as if he was some controlling monster, but she was a hot 19-year-old. Then she got rich in real estate. She has zero excuses for the train wreck her life has become.”
" Despite everything , my mom function on to kick ass all by herself . But my momma was also the classical , angry first married woman despite being the hot 2d wife . So there ’s that . As someone who married a poor piece and now supports myself and raises kids mostly alone , I want to contort all of their necks for the stunned thing they freak out out over and make important . I would n’t choose that life again in a million years . It ’s misery . Backbiting . Catty . Depressed , aimless kids . piddling dramatic event . "
11.“My cousin married for money. She is really pretty, and the guy is really rich. Our families aren’t so close — that’s why we had no idea about her family’s financial situation. Their eldest brother and sister-in-law cut them off after their parents died. She was doing her master’s and was taking care of her three sisters. It just became too much for her, and she agreed to marry the guy.”
" The guy had the longest crush on my cousin ; he is very loving . Now that I am a little older and can have ' grown - up lecture , ' she shares her feelings . She really respects her married man and is really thankful to him for taking care of her house . "
— u / junkolee27
12.“My cousin is on husband number three, living it up in the United Arab Emirates. I never liked her as a person; she always prided herself on her wealth and spoke down to me as though she was the successful one for marrying rich men. The thing that pisses me off the most is that she is cunning and has turned her current husband against his son.”
" positive ? She does make really nice solid food . "
13.“I was 25, had just quit a job, and had $200 to my name. He was 35, a hedge fund manager whose dad was a successful executive (aka a millionaire). Fairy-tale romance, quickie wedding, and 10 years later, it’s a completely mixed bag. He never wanted to have an ‘us’ life. He never wanted to share anything.”
" He still go to the grocery fund to buy his own snacks ( after I go and ask what he wants ) . He wo n’t together with lodge taxis with me . And the most annoying thing is that because he ’s always had money , he makes all decisions on a whim . Want to go to Las Vegas this weekend?It was exciting in the first , but 10 yr later on , I guess I want a more pragmatic and adequate relationship . "
— 35 , New York
14.“My ex-mother-in-law was widowed with two young children, leaving them dirt poor. She got married to a family friend from a very wealthy family a year later. My ex-husband and brother-in-law were privately educated, and they’ve always lived in huge houses. I don’t think the ex-mother-in-law and her husband are in love at all, but she was under pressure to marry from his family. They get along OK, and they’re OK people. I can’t really blame her for jumping at the arrangement, as it’s a good one.”
" As a parent now , I would n’t rule out doing the same in her attitude if my nipper could produce up with that animation instead of in poverty . They were able to gear up us up with a deposition for our first habitation , which would not have occur from my background . "
— annak4f45e0f65
And finally…
15.“I was emotionally blackmailed by my mom into marrying into a super-wealthy family. We ourselves were not wealthy at all. Before marriage, it was all stressful being on the poor side of the marriage. After the marriage, I learned that the seriously wealthy sometimes had serious money problems. Very soon after marriage, I had to learn a whole lot about how money works and got into a few fights to make sure that the money remained with us. At least we are wealthy, if not super wealthy now.”
" Now it ’s quite gracious . To be honest , I never realized while growing up how much practiced life is when you are rich — like , not just the corporeal stuff , but the exemption . "
— atomic number 92 / ConfusedKinkyWet
Note : Some responses have been edited for length and/or uncloudedness .
