" He knew they were the packaging for my domiciliation because he had seen them before , and quite indignant , he ask whether my used launchpad were also in that bag . I say him yes , and he dropped the bag , promise me loathly and telling me to take out the scum myself . "
Periods are completely normal, and no one should ever be shamed for having them — AT ALL.
But alas, there are still some people who feel differently. And most of the time, these people tend to be men who have never menstruated a day in their lives. Such is the case with Reddit userr/ThrowAway568931(or OP, for Original Poster)’s boyfriend, who recentlyshamed herfor disposing of her period pads at his house.
OP shared the story inr/AmITheAsshole, a place where people can share their stories and ask the internet if they’re the one in the wrong. Here are the full details:
“My boyfriend (23 years old) and I (18 years old) have been together for about three months now, and this is the first time I’ve spent the night over at his flat while I was on my period. Since yesterday, I’ve been changing my pads in his bathroom, and each time, I wrapped the used pad in a plastic wrapper and put it in the trash can. The trash can has a lid, and there’s a plastic garbage bag in there, so the pad was touching nothing but the trash that was already inside.”
“I genuinely didn’t think it was a big deal, until my boyfriend took out the trash this morning and noticed the plastic wrappers in the bag. He knew they were the packaging for my pads because he had seen them before, and quite outraged, he asked whether my used pads were also in that bag. I told him yes, and he dropped the bag, calling me disgusting and telling me to take out the trash myself.”
“I did, but then asked him where else I should’ve put my pads, and he told me I could’ve just kept them in my purse until I got home. I’m staying at his place for three nights because we both have some time off, and I wasn’t going to keep my used pads in my bag for days on end (imagine the smell).”
“He stated that he didn’t want my blood all over his trash and that I should find another way to dispose my pads ASAP. I don’t think my attempt of an explanation on why period blood isn’t as disgusting as he thinks it is got through to him, and he’s quite set on his opinion. I think he was a bit childish because I don’t understand how an adult straight man can be so disgusted by period blood, but when I texted my brother (19 years old) about it, he sided with my boyfriend.”
“As I’ve been outnumbered, I wanted to see whether other people also believe what I did was an [asshole] move.”
I think it’s safe to say that OP was NOT in the wrong. Pretty much every single comment on the thread called out her boyfriend for his shaming behavior. Some straight up called him immature.
" ideate being 23 and throw a conniption ‘cause your girlfriend put trumpery in a rubbish can , simply stymy for him . "
— u / Swampman5000
" He is too green to engagement ; he ’s not quick for a kinship with a woman . What would happen if you unexpectedly started your time period during sexual practice ? Is he going to hollo and muzzle or assure you that a shower can fasten it ? He ’s not the one , not for you , and not for anyone until he find out to be more accepting of bodies . "
— u / Begonia_Blue
Others really honed in on the fact that OP’s boyfriend was upset that the used pads were touching his TRASH.
" He does n’t want your blood all over his trash ? How pathetic . Was he planning to put it and hang it on the rampart or something ? And the proposition that you keep them in your handbag for day on close is disgusting , in add-on to being bizarre and deep selfish . You disposed of your pads in a reasonable , tidy way that did n’t create any new or inconvenient pot for him to pick up — he was endure to take that trash out anyway . "
— uranium / KaliTheBlaze
" Your bf did n’t want period blood all over hisTRASH ? ! ? ! ? Seriously ? ? ? How particular is his trash ? Does he dig through it with his clapper while blindfolded ? So he ca n’t even penetrate the idea of line in the methamphetamine ( keep him away from hospital ) , but want you to keep it in your PURSE ? ! ? "
— u / Low - Appearance-8157
And finally, plenty advised her to GTFO of the relationship as a whole:
" He is absolutely right , you want to take out your trash . That includes this fellow . ensure he ’s in a plastic bag so he does n’t come into striking with the reality of women and get frightened . "
— u / sinistrelle
" Run now . You do not need to marry this man who thinks a rude function is so gross but then insists you carry used pads in your purse . That would be gross . Is he 12 ? Because he ’s acting 12 . persist . "
— uranium / Ok_Lie5469
And for more drama-filled stories — like the mom whoasked for a week-long vacationfrom her husband and kids — clickhere.
