The St. Bride and groom , who were notably on dry nation the whole time , paused the wedding for half an hour because the St. Bride ’s sib - in - jurisprudence would n’t endure in the midsection of a knee - cryptical river for the continuance of the observance .
Buckle up, besties, because you’re in for a tale.
Recently, Redditoru/Only-Yam1500 shareda now-deleted post to theAITA subreddit, titled “Am I the asshole for refusing to wet myself for my sister-in-law’s wedding?” The post, which made its roundson Twitteras well, is straight-up wild to read. Here’s the story:
“The wedding happened in a little river — and I meaninthe river, in the water. The minister, bride (who’s my husband’s sister), and groom stood on a little strip of land so they were not wet, but all attendants were expected to stand in knee-deep rushing water for the whole ceremony. I’m sure it made for great photos, but I personally really dislike mud, germs, insects, and whatever diseases are found in that stream.”
“The kids who couldn’t easily stand in water that might be as tall as their whole body was left in ankle-deep water nearby with a couple older women. When I refused to remove my shoes, socks, and pull up my dress pants, my husband offered that I stay with the kids. I said no, I refuse to walk into that water, even if it’s ‘just’ ankle deep. Apparently, most people there knew about the water thing, butIdidn’t. My husband knew, but claims he ‘forgot to tell me.'”
“The ceremony could have easily move forward with me standing on the shore, just a few feet away from the kids, but noooooOOOoo. The bride and groom apparently refused to start until every person was in the water, and my husband waded in the water back and forth between his sister and me to mediate.”
“My husband was becoming visibly angry at me the longer it went on and kept acting like I was in the wrong. The bride and groom eventually relented and the ceremony went on, delayed by maybe 30 minutes. At the after party, I felt that I was being avoided by everyone else, including my husband.”
“That was nearly two weeks ago. My husband was stone-faced and refusing to talk to me about it or about anything at all for several days. When he started talking again, he refused to address the wedding beyond telling me that I ‘humiliated’ him in front of his family and he refuses to talk about it any longer. Things like ‘I will get really angry if you keep bringing up this topic. Put it to rest and I will try to forget what you did.’ BUT I FEEL LIKE I DID NOTHING WRONG! I feel blindsided because if I’d been told in advance what the wedding entailed, I’d have faked a stomach bug and not attended the damn thing at ALL!! Am I the asshole?”
Between Reddit and Twitter, people were certainly not shy to share their opinions. In case you’re not familiar with how AITA works, there are four options and what they mean:
YTA means the person who publish the story is the a - hole . NTA stand for the author is n’t in the wrong , and someone else in the story is . ESH means everyone sucks here , and everyone is a picayune in the wrong . And finally , NAH means nobody here is necessarily the a - trap .
Many people called out the husband for not telling her about this obviously crucial detail that the wedding isliterally in the middle of a river, possibly hoping that she’d just ~go with the flow~ instead of having to have a confrontation about it:
" NTA . And frankly , I do n’t imagine he forgot to tell you . He deliberately did n’t enjoin you figuring they ’d get you to go along with it when you witness out in the second . "
— u / wriker10
I require to understand how the married man “ forgot ” to tell his married woman that her presence at the wedding would need wading knee - deep into a physical structure of water . I think he ’s as uncollectible as his sis . The OP could have just stayed home with the kids .
" countenance ’s not forget the fucking ball on your hubby to not only give you the mum treatment , but to hold anger towards you for not bear a stupefied fucking wedding demand . If he is still unhinged at you two weeks later , he ’s the one who needs to let it go . Honestly , if anyone is the AH here , it ’s your hubby who did n’t even give you a chance to not go . "
— atomic number 92 / CourtOk3082
" Major NTA . That ’s info you need before the hymeneals . Like , well before the wedding . Firstly , whatever dress you wear down will credibly be deflower . Secondly , you need to bring in towels and a alteration of pants . third , it ’s utterly fairish not to need to abide in river / creek piddle for any rationality at all .
Your married person is a massive AH for not telling you in advance , and the couple are monumental AHs for refusing to go on without you in the water . Do n’t sense guilty , this is on them ( mostly your partner ) and not on you . "
— u / allgood177
Lots of people were simply gobsmacked that this was a actual, literal wedding ceremony idea and that the bride and groom absolutely wouldn’t budge on being in the water:
" NTA . It ’s one affair to have a wedding by the river , butinit ? ? ? And expecting only that the guests should be in the water ? That ’s too much . They can have their marriage ceremony however they need , but not at the inconvenience of the guests . It sounds like your married man did n’t ' blank out ' to tell you , he refused to because he knew you would n’t go . "
And finally, some people decided that everyone involved was being a bit of an asshole, TBH:
