Just because they ’re family does n’t mean it ’s forever …

Even though there’s no such thing as a “perfect family,” it’s normal for someone to be at their breaking point with their family, especially if toxicity is at play.

So if this resonates with you, I would love to know: When was the exact moment you reached your breaking point with your family and decided to cut ties with them?

Maybe a family member was your confidant for years and you thought you could go to them for everything — but then you found out they were talking behind your back the whole time to other family members, sharing things you only told them. So everyone started to shame you and the family member didn’t believe they did anything wrong.

Or maybe an event significantly shifted things — like a death in the family or a decades-long sibling rivalry that only became deeper and darker over time.

Or finally, maybe you already cut ties with certain family members but decided to check in to see how they were doing since it’s been years. Unfortunately, they did something to you that reminded you why you cut them off in the first place so you cut ties with them again.

Also, how did you feel after you cut ties? Did you initially have any regrets or simply miss them? Is there something you would have done differently when you hit your breaking point? What advice would you give to people in a similar position?

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