" Life is too short to divvy up with holding a clutch purse all night . "
After years of feeling pressure to dress a certain way and follow a million “wear this, not that” rules as women, we reach a point where we lose all desire to impress and simply say screw it.
So when redditoru/clickyteethaskedther/femalefashionadvicecommunity: “What fashion quirks have you developed as you’ve gotten older?” the responses made me feel seen, heard, and respected.
From ditching bras altogether to women wearing whatever the F they want, here are all the best responses:
1.To kick things off, the OP wrote: “For me, it’s matching PJs only. Idk why but getting into bed with a coordinated set of jams soothes. my. soul.”
I could n’t agree more . Something about a matching lot makes me feel like I have my life together .
2.“I don’t know if this qualifies as a ‘quirk’ but I’m not willing to tolerate basically any discomfort now. Heels, clothes that require sticky bras, purses that are heavy/impractical, clothing inappropriate for the weather, those are all things of my youth. I’m 100% willing to take points on the frump factor to be comfortable.”
— u / pajamapolice
" Same . Bras with air fill pockets to shove my boobs up ? No . A pocketbook that I ca n’t catapult across my back and fill with snacks ? Fuck off . Shoes that are even slightly uncomfortable ? miss bye . That was 20 - year - old me . 34 - year - old me appreciates this remark ! "
— atomic number 92 / Tactical_pho
Discomfort? Simply put:
3.“I really think I lost my ability to wear heels during COVID-19. I’ve been building it back up a little, but I doubt I’ll ever go over two inches again.”
— u / mhck
" I ca n’t even wear Oxfords now . All I want are sneaker and everything that man wear and look so happy in . “—u / usherer
Miranda Priestlys of the world, your judgy glares aren’t going to work anymore.
4.“Life is too short to deal with holding a clutch purse all night.”
— atomic number 92 / wigglytufflove
5.“I can’t stop buying robes. I have… 8. God help me (I hadn’t actually counted until that ellipses). And they each serve a different purpose.”
— u / icodeswitch
6.“If I can’t do a full snow angel or a double front twisting somersault without ripping/unbuttoning/untucking anything, I’m not wearing it. (Not that I could actually do a double front twisting somersault… but it’s a fun visual.)”
— u / hostess_cupcake
Basically, if I can’t do this in my clothes…it’s not happening.
7.“Thirty-four-year-old me absolutely hates doing the ironing, so one of my age quirks is to almost always wear knits, pullovers, hoodies, satin shirts, polyester blouses, viscose, fake silk, everything I don’t have to iron and that I can throw in the washing machine, put on a cloth hanger and let it air dry.”
— u / Liscetta
8.“Got a clothes steamer. Easier than an iron and great for things like puff sleeves. Everything looks better with less wrinkles.”
— uranium / oyo_fuku
I second this advice . I got a portable steamer I can institute when I travel , and it changed my life .
9.“I’ve streamlined a few colors that work for me. I acknowledge that if I buy something in a color outside my ‘palette,’ it will just sit in the back of my closet. If it’s too fussy or requires an extra special bra for everyday wear, I’m not wearing it.”
— uranium / jawnbaejaeger
10.“I have stopped wearing bras. I am small-tittied and have fully acknowledged I don’t need ‘lift’ or ‘support’… I do have a couple soft bralettes for when I need nip coverage under thin fabrics, but it’s freeing to be free.”
— uracil / wtfudgsicle
11.“Some sort of a capsule wardrobe, but in the sense that, if I cannot picture the item of clothing being paired with at least three other items I already own or I cannot picture myself wearing it in at least two different occasions, I won’t purchase it. Has reduced my impulse buying and my outfits are more intentional cause they are thought out even before the purchase is made.”
— u / ikissandpastels
12.“I’m all for high quality comfort clothes. 100% Pima cotton, silk, and merino wool. Hell yes. I buy less clothes, but want to invest in higher quality.”
— u / Prestigious - Mistake4
13.“Differentiate between ‘house clothes’ and ‘nice outside clothes’ (this wasn’t in my culture growing up). I have stuff like casual T-shirt dresses I wear around the house. Change out of them and into presentable clothes to leave the house, and vice-versa, when I get home I change right away. Never do chores, cook, lounge, or eat at home in my nice clothes. I think it keeps them looking nice and stain free longer.”
As a inveterate stain creator , I ’m steal this one .
14.“I refuse to buy dresses without pockets.”
— u / coldbrewkweeen
An immediate add to cart if it has functional pockets.
15.“Athleisure is the fucking best. Even leggings feel like too much effort now when I can just pull on some joggers.”
16.“Breathable clothing! I had a hysterectomy five years ago and I am a sweaty Betty. It doesn’t matter if it’s -10° F outside, I am miserable. So I wear a lot a lot a lot of breathable clothing.”
— u / PrettyStarchild
17.“I own one pair of presentable jeans for when I feel the desperate need to look edgy. Otherwise, I think it’s crazy that they are (or at least used to be for a long time) the default casual pant for adults when they’re so uncomfortable, stiff, notoriously ill-fitting and not even warm. The age of leg prison is over for me.”
— u / Zeiserl
In the words of Beyoncé, “If you don’t jump to put jeans on, baby, you don’t feel my pain.”
18.“Brainwashing myself into thinking that my Birkenstocks go with any outfit.”
— atomic number 92 / emily2586
19.“I wear what I like and wear it where I like… I am 65. I have very long hair with grey streaks and wear it up or down as suits my fancy. I refuse to color it or cut it to fit some mold. I wear platform shoes and boots, clogs, and pointy toed flats. I refuse to wear stuff I don’t think feels good and looks cool…
I strive for nerveless hippie withdraw artistic creation instructor smell . I was wedge into suits when I influence a government supervisory Book of Job and it was very hard to have much personality in my wear . I decided after I quit work incorporated type I did n’t have to be in case or black attire drop-off ever again if I did n’t choose it . "
— u / Picodick
You go girl! I’m more of a Ms. Frizzle myself…
20.“Always wear something underneath. Camisoles, slips, thermal layers in winter etc. Keeps clothes cleaner and helps them lay better I feel.”
21.“Matching lingerie always makes me feel like I have my life together, so that.”
— uracil / Young_Old_Grandma
22.“Lately I’ve been really vibing with granny panties. Full coverage, no wedgies.”
— u / changgang - changster
23.“One summer I got sun-stricken and I vowed never to repeat that experience. Haven’t left the house without a hat or a scarf on my head since…
Pro crown : If you ’re gon na be spending time somewhere you ca n’t wash your hair that often & it get ’s dirty and smelly quickly ( like tenting , go on a farm , etc . ) , get yourself a rectangular scarf from a thicker innate textile and a simple combing . Tie up your tomentum and wrapper that scarf around your head so it hatch all the hair . It will protect it from ingredient and smells . comb out your hair thoroughly each evening , and they should stay fresh and odorless for a farseeing time . "
— u / AndreaValeta
24.“I’m really into loose, casual button-up shirts now… I can wear a comfortable bra with them and they cover my arms in the summer so I don’t get burned or have to reapply sunscreen. I even have nylon ones to go jogging in when it gets hot.”
— u / DestinedJoe
In the words of H Duff…
25.“My quirk is fuck growing up. I still wear tube tops because I overheat easily and because they make my shoulders look great. Still wear cutoff shorts. I started wearing sarongs and huge scarves as impromptu halter tops in college and never stopped.”
— uracil / Alcoraiden
Tan France might disagree…
